Saturday, March 2, 2019

This isn’t news: How I spend my time, and why do I say stupid things.



Beware the Ideas of March. Or don’t, free country and all that.

It’s March, which means warm weather is coming soon, something always to look forward to.

Speaking of things to look forward to; since I started my letter-writing campaign, I really do look forward to checking the mail and finding letters from folks I’ve reached out to.

Not to hit the ominous-warning opening on the head too much (still trying to find my voice for this blog, so bear with me folks), but I have an unlucky 13 people who have so far agreed to exchange addresses for my letter-writing project – which means I might want to reach out to others soon.  

After two months of my project, I’ve found I enjoy writing hand-written letters a lot more than I thought I would. What started out as a chore has turned into something I look forward to doing at the end of the day.

So first lesson, just try things. It’s a cliché, but a cliché for a reason. But even more so, make a conscious effort to make things happen. Actively seek out joy, a good lesson for all…..within reason.  
As I’ve come to enjoy taking the time to write – and read—what people took their time to write me, I’ve started to really think about the words I choose to use when sending letters, knowing I can’t those words back once I put them in the envelope and stick on the stamp.

The world might be a better place if people were reduced to only being allowed to communicate so many words in a limited amount of time with people – we’d probably say better thing than the usual nonsense we tend to go on and on about.

I’ve been reflecting a lot about time and how I use my time and what that in turn say about me. It really is quite startling when you do the math and make a small spreadsheet on how you spend your time –and it does not paint a flattering picture....yes I did make a chart…friggin YouTube, man…..

So, something to work on.

Second lesson, reviewing what you say (and don’t say) to people, and then ask why. Those two task bring some troubling answers from time to time, I must confess. But trouble usually brings personal development --- sometimes -- that is a generous way of putting it, but I’ll stick with it.

Another observation, I tend to be less reserved when writing letters. When I have time to think, I think I say things with more substance or the things I want to say – but don’t say in public. Either out of being timid or second-guessing myself. Granted, when I’m writing I also second-guessing myself – the joys of the editing process.

Sometime being timid is really me trying to be polite, because I’ve been known to have too many foot in mouth moments.

Anyway, back to positivity.

Perhaps the biggest takeaway I have so far from my letter writing-process is I have an amazing group of friends with a wide variety of interest. Which is really cool, because I hate talking about the same thing over and over again. I do admit, sometimes there are conversations I have conversations with people in my life where I know what they are going to say, because they say the same things all the time.

It’s not that they aren’t making a good point or they mean anything by it, but I tend to lose my temper or get frustrated when people ramble.  

I make a point in my letters to keep it to a page and a half, anything more than that and I feel like I’m rattling.

However, realize for some people, they need more words to say what they want to say.

When I write letters, I don’t take the time to add insults or make fun of people, because I know my words or limited. …so why not do that in person? Cheap insults seem to be a waste of time, so it’s something this month I’m hoping to address.

I remember covering a youth conference a year ago, and the speaker was talking about the Four Gospels: “Matthew, Mark, Luke and John,” and how in terms of page length, they aren’t that long.

What I found so mind-boggling was how four books bout the most important person to have ever lived really are reduced to a day’s reading.

It means the Gospel writers had to pick the most important details, the most telling stories, the 
information that the young Christian communities absolutely NEEDED to know, and the rest had to get cut.

It’s the most extreme example of using your words, and using them carefully.

Now, I’m not an Evangelist (Capital “E” evangelist) all Christians are called to evangelize. But I think there is a valuable lesson there.

Think about the words you use, and why you use them.

Think about the people you spend time with, and why you want to be with them.

And think about what you do, and why you’re doing it.

Good lessons for March.

Good lessons for the year.

Beware the Ides of March, and watch out for the Soothsayers and malicious senators.

Courage.